When Outer Success Doesn’t Match How You Feel Inside
Let me be clear — I haven’t sat in your exact seat. I haven’t worn your title or answered to your CEO. But I do know the weight of proving myself in a system that expected everything and gave nothing back.
I worked in a hospital that was once beautiful — collaborative, values-driven, and full of heart. Then…corporate took over. Numbers came first, and people became expendable. The more I gave, the less I had left.
I don’t know why exactly, but I decided to try out private practice in the evenings. I mean; I’m already overly exhausted and irritable, so why not do more work?? It was weird; after a full day at the hospital and one or two private clients in the evening, I felt energized. I wasn’t drained. I wasn’t irritable. Work more and be LESS drained? Weird.
Same work. Different model. And it hit me: I’m not the problem. That realization cracked everything open for me. (More on that later).
I wonder if you’re in a similar boat to my beginnings; you’ve worked hard. You’ve pushed and climbed, and from the outside, it looks like everything’s going great. You’ve got a solid salary, a strong title, and a full calendar. You’re dependable, reliable, and respected. And…exhausted.
Not just the “I need a nap” kind of tired. But the kind that sinks into your bones. The kind that no weekend off can fix.
Do you feel like you’re constantly running, but not going anywhere? Do you wake up already feeling behind? Do you feel like you’re “on” all the time? Maybe you fantasize about quitting but don’t know what you’d do instead.
And…despite all this, do you feel like you should be grateful?
The Hidden Cost of High Performance
What no one tells you about success is sometimes it breaks you. When you’re the person who always gets it done, when you’re the one people go to when things are on fire, when you’ve built your entire identity around showing up, pushing through, and delivering, it’s easy to lose sight of yourself in the process. You start overworking to prove you’re good enough. You obediently and silently carry the weight of your team, your clients, and your company. You never show cracks because you can’t afford to.
You wear the mask, smile in meetings, and answer emails at 9PM. You keep everything running despite falling apart on the inside.
When Outer Success Doesn’t Match Inner Fulfillment
Again let’s take a look: You’ve checked all the boxes: Job, Salary, Responsibilities, Leadership, Reputation. But inside you’re lacking Peace, Joy, Excitement, and Clarity.
You used to feel driven. Now you just feel…trapped. There’s this silent fear you don’t talk about: “I don’t know if I can keep going like this” and/or “What if I walk away and regret it”
And so you stay because the known is better than the unknown. But that means you also stay numb, busy, and disconnected.
Imposter Syndrome Doesn’t Care About Your Title
You’d think that climbing the ladder would’ve made you feel more confident. But in truth, it just gave the imposter more to criticize.
“Don’t screw this up.” “You’re not qualified for this.” “If they really knew what you were thinking, they’d never trust you again.”
So you overwork to quiet the voice. You stay late, you say yes to things you really want to say no to, and you push harder. The crazy thing is, it seems like it works until it doesn’t.
There Is a Way Out (and You Don’t Have to Burn Everything Down)
You don’t have to walk away from everything you’ve built or burn it all down to find peace. But you do have to stop trying to fix burnout with bubble baths and vacations. You do have to stop trying to outwork imposter syndrome.
You need a new way of working that supports your well-being, not just your success.
Here’s what that looked like for me (and what I now guide others through):
I stopped pouring all my value into my job title
I learned to regulate stress through my body, not just my thoughts
I designed a work model that supports my energy — not just my schedule
I gave myself permission to want more (without guilt)
You Can Feel Like You Again
You don’t have to keep living like this. You don’t have to keep surviving your career. There is a way to feel clear, energized, and creative again. There is a way to earn well, live well, and actually enjoy your work again.
If something in you is whispering (or screaming), “this isn’t it…” Listen to it. That’s your spark. That’s the part of you that’s still alive — and ready for something more aligned. If you’re ready to take the first step, I’ve got you.
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You were never meant to push yourself into the ground just to be successful. Let’s build something that actually works — for your career and your life.